3 Powerful Ways to Transform Negative Thinking into Positive Thought-action
Success isn't just a game of checks and balances; it is a consistent practice of confidence and accountability. Success also comes in many different shapes and forms. Whether you are trying to level up as an entrepreneur or get into shape for the summer, nine times out of 10, the main thing holding you back is yourself.
Pay attention to how you approach things, and continuously remind yourself that self-doubt is eating away at your success one negative thought-action at a time.
Yes, thought-action. What is that exactly? What I call a thought-action is an action that follows a thought. We humans have millions of thoughts a day, and most are just that, thoughts. However, we are not our thoughts; we are our actions. And, if we think we can't do something and we don't, we have just created a negative thought-action; not acting is acting.
Conversely, not acting on a negative thought is a positive thought-action.
Here, I am going to show you three proven ways to translate all your thoughts, negative and positive, into thought-actions that will keep you motivated and more devoted to challenging yourself while building your confidence. I want you to step away from this blog feeling like you have more authority over your awesome.
1. You're smarter than you think because you think you aren't smart.
Chew on that statement for a second. A skills study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psysocolgy shares that people of lower intelligence "grossly" overestimate their abilities, sharing that these types of people "tend to hold overly favorable views of their abilities in many social and intellectual domains."They label them as lacking metacognitive skill -- the capacity to distinguish ability from lack of, based off of previous experiences.
Your ability to cognitively associate past failures as the reason you are not able to process through your goals is actually a sign of intelligence. Do not let this intelligence hinder your ability to accomplish everything you want in life; in other words, don't be stupid; learn from your mistakes; don't let them hold you back.
"It's better to be an optimist who is sometimes wrong than a pessimist who is always right." ~ Unknown
Pay attention to this fear of failure that can subconsciously hold you from moving forward on your goals. When you are finding a million reasons why you can't do something, run with that one reason why you can, even if it's ridiculous.
And if you can't seem to find a reason, make one up and paddle through it. You'll be surprised at what one positive thought-action in a sea of negatives can accomplish.
2. Nobody's caring, so stop comparing
This word is becoming a canker in my vocabulary, "Influencer." Seriously, what does that even mean? Ok, let me break it down. There are two types,
Those that use their lumpish following to sell products for companies, which doesn't always come with looks and image, but more so with the fact that these "influencers" have mastered their digital marketing techniques to gain a following that believes in the products they are showing off and using and sharing. (TOP SECRET-- most are usually fake profiles made by collaborative companies; a marketing scheme to gather vulnerable people into loathing the life of others, making them feel they need the products to live a better life)
Kim Kardashian (no offence to the Kardashian's) -- I'm not joking, and there are 1,000,000 Kim's out there, striking poses and enhancing their bootie with great selfie stick angles while making dangerous body mods to get fashionably fit so they can get followers.
Although I am neither one, (a.) is a healthier route.
Where am I going with this? Well, stop comparing yourself to either one. Work toward your goals, be a good person while creating an image based on personal compassion and accountability. Stop feeding those thoughts of not being good enough because of some, more than likely, fake profile says you should.
Moreover, self-doubt based on an algorithm is NOT sexy. Don't waste your time and energy paying into the machine that is influence. In the real world, people have a life outside of your thoughts.
They have kids, and jobs, and other life worries and woes, and have no reason to care about whether your purple lipstick makes them feel uncomfortable. Wear the damn lipstick, get over yourself, and feel good about your moves -- and your lipstick.
Appreciate the fact people are doing cool stuff, don't hate them or yourself because you feel like you'll never be that. You're right; you won't EVER be them because you aren't them. So start working on being the best 'you' you can be. Influence yourself.
3. Examine, Replace, Reward
This is huge. Examining your surroundings and finding out what is triggering negative thoughts are going to help you make huge moves internally. Examining what is producing negativity reflects #1 on this list and proves you're a cognitive, intelligent person. It is also a step toward personal accountability.
You want to replace those outside negative influences with things that guide you through obstacles. This includes people as well: family, friends, no matter how long you've known them or love them. Sometimes just letting go and creating boundaries is all you need to level up.
I've mentioned this before. Some people don't want to see you succeed because, well, misery love company. Maybe cliche, but it's true.
Now the reward. There is nothing more satisfying than finding success in your self-worth when all this practicing produces and enables you to work out that past life of yours with confidence. Throwing off those blinders of self-doubt and trashing those negative commentaries of people in your screen or daily life.
Overcoming self-doubt is a success, one of the most rewarding achievements in life. Furthermore, rewarding yourself for this accomplishment with something you like, like a spa day or some chocolate will help as well -- positive reinforcement for yourself.
What's the next step?
I can help you with that, and don't be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes breaking down walls and building success takes more than one sledgehammer. I want to work with you to develop your personal accountability and work on smashing through all that self-doubt.
"Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can't be done." ~ Bo Bennett
Reach out, and let's get started on building the image and life you want. I want you to prove to yourself that you are worth the investment—nothing like rewarding yourself by investing in yourself. Stop spending so much time breaking yourself down and start building yourself up.