Becoming a Boss: How Failure Leads to Success
What do you want to be when you grow up? I want to be a boss. That's what I told myself, and that's what I did; I became a boss. However, It took me making some serious moves to realize which moves were boss moves and which moves were distractions.
Am I an expert on this? Actually, yes, yes I am, and I have the certifications to prove it. Now, you don't have to run out and start getting certified in everything that sparks interest - you can start by making a list of what you want, though - that's a boss move.
By allowing myself to experience different things and accepting what works and what doesn't: bartending, office jobs, sales, I was able to find my niche. I wasn't scared to take those chances, broadening my horizons. I looked for access in areas I found interesting, and I moved in and took control. I showed up for myself over and over again. And most importantly, I learned from my mistakes, pushing through my failures. I took accountability.
Solid foundations are built on small successes and following through with your failures. What does that even mean? Well, one of the hardest things to do is know when to stop and when to continue.
Follow through with our failures, by saying, "I failed at 'this,' so let me use it as a way to guide me into the next challenge," by using it as a place to start new from so you don't fall back, this is following through on your failures. And this will ultimately change the way you perceive yourself when accomplishing your goals.
"To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions." — Stephen Covey
Give Up So You Can Show up
In his article, The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work (And How to Fix Them), James Clear says, "Successful people give up all the time. If something is not working, smart people don't repeat it endlessly. They revise. They adjust. They pivot. They quit,"
Yes, we quit. We quit trying to figure out why we failed over and over again and move on from where we left off so we can show up to what's next.
"True recovery is about rejuvenation. It's about being present with where you are." Benjamin Hardy, PhD
By identifying where you are and where you want to be, you are allowing your vision to come to fruition. You are creating space to succeed. This doesn't just apply to jobs; this is life. Being a boss doesn't mean you are climbing up the corporate ladder; it means you are becoming the person you want to be.
If who you want to be is someone cracking coconuts on a beach in Costa Rica, then do what you have to to get there; learn to climb a coconut tree. And if you can't climb, plant one and hold on to it while it grows.
"Your identity follows your behavior." — Benjamin Hardy, PhD
Growth doesn't happen overnight. But, you will be able to get a clear view of how it is going to happen if you just hold on. You do this by taking accountability for the whole process. Furthermore, by leaving your strategy fluid, you are freeing up the possibility of learning things you didn't even know you wanted to learn.
It helps if you don't make your process brick, you need it to be fluid. You want to set a goal and keep it. The process needs to be trial and error with the error being a lesson, a step up toward your success.
"One common mistake is to make the non-negotiable your strategy, when it should be your vision." -Benjamin Hardy, PhD
Together, let's get you motivated to show up for yourself. I want to show you how to boss up your life. I am going to push you to push yourself through your failures and give you the strength to pick yourself up where you fell off with that last idea. I will get you over all that self-doubt by developing a plan to build the confidence you need to be a better version of yourself. We are going to set goals and get results, even if it means failing from time to time.
"You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending." ~ C.S. Lewis