"You don't need to be perfect; you just need to know where to start." ~SG
This statement has been floating around in my thoughts a lot lately, and frankly, I feel building your confidence is where it all starts. I have been sharing some ways that science explains our image and how it intertwines in how we develop confident lifestyle choices.
So, I thought I'd share some science behind how confidence works and some science-backed ways to help you breakthrough self-doubt.
Being aware - aka accountability - of your faults and insecurities allows a safe space to fall into when people feel like pointing them out. You can pile-drive their unsolicited negativity and correct them, Clap back with confidence and then move forward, "I know, and I'm working on it, what are you doing with your life?"
If you don't believe in yourself, why should anyone else?
None of us are the same, and you need to understand what makes you so unique and what makes you worth betting on and use it to promote yourself.
Straighten Up! Your Body has a Language
First, let's start with the external. Other than fashion and image, your actual body speaks volumes. From the way you hold your back, to the switch of a hip, people read it like a book.
Scienceofpeople.com says, "The easiest way to look like a winner is to claim territory. Own your body and own the space around you by standing or sitting tall."
Doing things like crossing your arms and slouching are signs of defeat, so un-slump that hump! Be aware of what your body language says about you; we don't want people thinking we live in a belltower. We can reflect to the world how it wants us to feel, which is usually full of toxicity, or we can choose what we reflect for ourselves.
Master your body language and master your confidence. Don't beat yourself down, straighten yourself out!
Speak Up! Find Your Voice; Find Your Confidence
Your mood affects your voice, and you, in fact, control your mood, stop speaking negatively about yourself and start owning your 'Hello.'
Yes, even the way you answer the phone can determine how someone is going to engage with you. We vibe on the frequency, and you're vibe attracts your tribe. By just changing your tone, you can change your attitude as well as the people's around you.
Yes, you are that powerful.
"The reason that so many people never fulfill their potential is not a lack of intelligence, opportunity, or resources, but a lack of belief in themselves." Maggie Warrell (Forbes)
Before you engage, to make sure you're in space that won't interfere with your attitude. Make sure you're confident and settled in your mind. We can't always be prepared to carry our confidence if we don't practice. We need to check ourselves and be mindful at all times how we might react. It is a practice; life is practice.
This plays into my love affair with accountability. Just another practice in developing your skills in holding yourself accountable for your attitude. A happy approach helps people respond to you better and helps build confidence. You can create a whole new environment with just an influx in your voice, so being aware can keep your frequency vibing high.
When practicing certain sports, you practice falling, over and over again, so you don't get hurt. Soccer, Football, volleyball, all these teach you how to tuck and roll and go with the flow of inertia that presents itself with each action.
Stop being rude to yourself. Failing at a project isn't the end; it's part of the practice; its a lesson. If you harp on your failures, you're never going to have space to learn. When the goalie gets the ball, he jumps up and throws it back. If that isn't a metaphor for life, I don't know what is.
Yep, just like success, you need to know how to handle your failures. Training yourself to be mindful to accept failure is just as important as rewarding yourself of your successes.
It's not possible to succeed at everything; we need to fail to hone in on what we are good at. By doing this, it builds more confidence in our stronger areas, and it builds character. It also gives a better idea of what we need to work on.
Failing at something isn't always a reason to stop working toward it. Some of the most successful people failed a million times before they got that first check. Picking up where you fail is a sure step to success. It's hard to move on if you don't know where you are going.
I can show you how to work all this into your daily life. I can help you hold yourself accountable and stay mindful, so we use all that built up failure as that inertia to catapult you to be the best version of yourself you can be. Stop letting your negative views hold you back. Let's work together to rewire your attitude.