Updated: Feb 2
What is confidence and how can it make your life better? We are not all equal in this area. There are many things that could affect someone’s confidence, it could stem from childhood insecurities, upbringing, family, toxic relationships, schoolmates, etc. Long story short, anything that happens to us in our lives can potentially destroy our confidence. It can be easy for people to blame their lack of confidence on their past life events.
I think almost every one of us can be held accountable for our lack of confidence. What do I mean by that? Do you think that anyone who has made you lose or lack confidence gives you much thought? Probably not, because to be brutally honest, they have likely moved on to something or someone else. In the meantime, you have allowed them to affect you on some level. Don’t you owe it to yourself to take your confidence out of the hands of others and become accountable for it on your own? Do not allow the opinions of others stop you from doing the things that you want to do.
We all need confidence to take the lead in our lives no matter what it has to do with. Whether it has to do with parenting, home life, work-life, the gym, or our image, almost everything we do requires confidence. We just don’t give it a lot of thought, however, confidence is the cornerstone of nearly each and everything we do. Our mindsets need to shift in order for us to take accountability in owning or regaining our self-confidence.
I encourage you to take back your confidence. You will soon find that you can do almost anything like get that promotion, apply for that job, get that degree, or wear the clothes that you want without worrying about being judged.
Get yourself out of unhealthy relationships, not just with your partners, but any bad relationship that’s holding you back. Confidence is about asking no one for permission, doing what you want to do, and doing what will make you feel truly happy. How do I know these things? Well, as I said in “my story” in my bio, you can read that I have had many opportunities in my life to let others break my confidence. For small moments in time, some things did shake my confidence. However, I never blamed others. I realized that it was up to me to rebuild my confidence and I took accountability for those things, like the toxic relationships I found myself in. Did I know after a short while that they were toxic, yes I did.
Did I blame my partners, or did I move on and rebuild? I chose to take accountability for it all, not blame anyone else. When you practice accountability it is much easier to keep your confidence. Every year that I grow older, it is more evident to me that these are the things that made me stronger.